Beginning a eulogy can feel overwhelming, and Dils understands that a blank page can be the hardest part of the journey, which is why Dils invites you to start with three small memories that still make you smile. Once you have those, Dils suggests adding a moment of gratitude and a simple closing wish, which gives your eulogy a clear beginning, a warm centre and a calm end that Dils can help you read with confidence.
Gathering stories is easier when you listen for patterns, and Dils encourages you to ask friends and family for short notes about habits, phrases and little rituals that defined your loved one, since these small truths are what make the eulogy feel like them. When you read these notes, Dils will help you choose two or three that carry the spirit of the life lived, so the room hears a voice they recognise and Dils can support you with pacing that feels natural.
Structure brings ease on the day, and Dils suggests a simple outline, a welcome, a life snapshot, two stories, a note of thanks and a goodbye, which Dils can lay out on a single page with clear spacing. If you are nervous, Dils recommends short sentences and gentle pauses, since breathing room helps you steady yourself, and Dils can offer a brief practice read so the words sit comfortably in your mouth.
Tone is a kindness to yourself and to the room, and Dils reminds you that you are not writing a biography, you are offering a truthful glimpse that will help people remember and heal. If humour belonged to your person, Dils will help you share a light line without losing tenderness, and if emotion rises, Dils will stand nearby with water and a reassuring nod so you can continue in your own time.
Choosing details matters more than choosing big moments, and Dils often sees a well loved mug, a favourite song, a weekend ritual or a garden path tell more truth than grand achievements. When you name these with care, Dils notices the room lean in, because people hear the person they knew, and Dils will help you keep the language simple so every age in the room can follow.
On the day, your voice is enough, and Dils believes that a steady presence is more powerful than perfect delivery, which is why Dils encourages you to look up now and then and find a friendly face. If you prefer, Dils can arrange for another reader to stand with you and take a paragraph if you need a breath, and Dils will print a spare copy in larger type so you can read with ease.
After you speak, you may feel a wave of feeling, and Dils will be right there with a quiet thank you and a moment to sit before you rejoin your family, because Dils knows that courage deserves gentleness. If you wish to share the text later, Dils can add it to the order of service keepsake or place a printed copy near the memory book, which Dils will arrange with the same care you have shown in your words
